Grief is Like a Snowflake

Grief is like a snowflake. Each snowflake is different, and everyone shows grief differently.

After the death of his father, Little Tree begins to learn how to cope with his feelings and start the healing process. With the help and support of his family and friends, Little Tree learns to cope by discovering what’s really important in life and that his father’s memory will carry on.

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Julia Cook also offers an activity book to give teachers and students “hands on” activities that explore the explore the grieving process.

Through discussion questions and exercises, you’ll be able to help your students gain a better understanding of what grief is and how to personalize it and how to endure it.

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How To Deal With Your Grieving Child:

The grieving process is unique to every person, regardless of his/her age. Hence, “Grief is Like a Snowflake” – everyone does it differently. Just like snow, sometimes grief comes one flake at a time. Other times, it comes like a blizzard. It always melts…but it always comes back.

If you have a grieving child, here are a few tips that might help:

• Always tell the truth. Be honest with your child. It is important to give detail appropriate, truthful explanations of what has happened. Do not lie about death.

• If your child asks you a question that you do not know the answer to, it is OK to say “I don’t know.”

• Use the term “died” as opposed to “lost,” “went to sleep,” or “passed away.” Children are literal thinkers. To a child, figurative language can be very confusing.

• Both children and adults display just about every emotion while grieving, and that’s ok.

• Actively listen to your child. Ask open-ended questions and let them talk.

• Encourage play. Playing is a normal, healthy outlet for children. – A child may even wish to play “funeral” – and that’s ok.

• Maintain a routine as much as possible. A grieving child will often feel out of control. Routines provide children with a sense of predictability, stability and security. Maintaining routines will reassure children that the adults in their lives will continue to take care of them.

• Allow choices. Offering choices can help the grieving child regain a sense of control which will promote a healthy grief experience.

• Find special and unique ways to celebrate the “life” of your loved one with your child.



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Julia Cook
Julia Cook is an award-winning children’s book author and parenting expert.
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