Sometimes I look around at the moms I admire and think, “Wow, they really have it all figured out. How do they do it all?”
I’ve set the expectation level for myself extremely high and find that I’m constantly falling short. Between trying to be a perfect mom, a loving wife, a good housekeeper, a small business owner and then also trying to read a book, stay in shape, keep up with technology, understand the tumultuous world I live in and not get stuck in mom jeans; something is always getting the short end of the stick. How do some women do it?
Or do they?
Are these women that seem so put together feeling just a thinly spread on the inside as the rest of us? I want to be the crafty mom that sews the Halloween costumes, makes snacks from my organic garden and always has time for a quick yoga practice.
But that is not the reality.
Some days my biggest sense of accomplishment is showering before 6pm, sometimes it is just showering period! Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we feel we must accomplish so much in one day to feel like we are truly the ultimate mom?
Logically I know that I can’t do it all and that no one can, but it doesn’t change the fact that I still try. I have to give myself a pep talk everyday to remind myself that my kid is happy, nice, well adjusted and smart as all get out, so I must be doing something right. I also have to remind myself that there are days when I need to let the floors be dirty, let the laundry sit and just enjoy being with my daughter without the stress of trying to accomplish 20 other things.
Being perfect isn’t the goal, it’s being happy. And as my mother said to me, “A happy mom is a happy family.” I am officially lowering my bar of expectations to happy, not perfect.