The end of 2010 - meant the beginning of some rekindled friendships for me.
I don't know where the time went. But since I've been a wife - particularly since I became a mom, I have lost touch with many of my close, childhood friends. Maybe it's because of the whirlwind that begins once you have children. You know what I'm talking about: The round-the-clock feedings, sleepless nights, pediatrician visits, working full time, quality time, potty training, cooking, cleaning, laundry, birthday parties, pictures and - oh yes - scrapbooking (I've given up on that). Does any of this sound familiar?
If you're not careful - motherhood can consume you. And while being a mom is the very best thing that has ever happened to me - I did have a life before I was a parent - with a great husband and wonderful friends. And while my husband and I remain close - it's those friends who I've lost contact with over the years...which is a shame because this is the time of my life I really want to share with them.
So this year I've dedicated myself to reconnecting.
And you know what?
It has been like medicine for my soul.
The first connection I made was with my friend Niki. We were the best of friends in junior high and high school. After college I was in both of her weddings ( life happens - whatever!). And we kept in touch some after that - until the kids. The first night we talked - we were on the phone for at least two hours...chatting about the good ole' days on the track and field team, the drill team and our high and lowlights playing powder puff football. Then we compared all of that - to our life now - with kids (she has four - I have two...my how times have changed). I was sad to hear about some of what life dealt her - and happy to see how strong and successful she is now.
I also connected with my college roommate, Lena. We lived together all four years of school - and after that - we just went our separate ways. I don't take credit for our recent reunion. She contacted me. But I'm grateful she did. Talking to her was good - and surprisingly familiar...even after all this time. It was like we picked up right where we left off. We both have done and grown so much since we parted ways in college. And today I'm proud to say - we're planning a weekend for her to come visit and meet my family.
I'm also keeping in better touch with Marcy, who I've known since we were in diapers. She is truly my oldest and dearest friend. We went to preschool and junior high school together, and went to the same college. Our lives went in completely different directions after graduation, but somehow we've always managed to stay in touch just enough to know - what state we were living in at the time. Even after all these years - talking to her is like - home. She gets me.
Carl is probably the best friend I've ever had. We've been friends from childhood - to adulthood. Even once we both got married, we stayed in contact but when I had kids - our visits became few and far between. While he made every effort to stay in touch - I was the one who failed to return phone calls. Once again, I let another friendship fade. So I've made it a goal to call more. And the last time I went home to KC, I made sure my husband finally got the chance to meet Carl and his wife. We all met at one of my favorite jazz spots - and laughed and danced. It reminded me of the old days.
Each time I visit with any my old friends I feel uplifted and rejuvenated.
They are all like a breath of fresh air to me. I can't explain it, but it is very real...and I'm so glad I've taken the time to reestablish these very important relationships.
Here is what I've learned from all this. No matter who we meet along the way - there is no replacement for our childhood friends. And as you get older....you learn to appreciate the people who know you best. It is good to have people in your life who don't really care what you do professionally, where you live or how much you make. They just want to hear from their old buddy, make sure they're okay..reminisce a bit...and share a few laughs.
So- here's to friends....
May we always stay in touch - make time for each other - and continue to make memories.
Before I go:
I hear so much about women who still manage to get together for a night out with their girlfriends or a weekend getaway and wonder - how they do it???? Tell me how you stay connected with your girls and how important they are - especially now you're a mom.
Until Next Time,
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