The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly of Smart Phones

Liz Fogle

About a year ago, my husband and I joined the smart phone generation. I wasn’t sure if I would like being “connected” all the time, but I will admit it has its perks. I love being in the middle of an unfamiliar city and be able to look up the nearest restaurant, shopping, or craft stores. My smart phone also helps my inability to navigate (thank goodness for a Navigation App)! Let’s just say, it has saved me a time or two in Nashville. I also love that it can entertain Bug (my daughter) during a long doctor visit or road trip.

The downside to a smart phone, random e-mails in the middle of the night! I really wish, I could figure out how to turn those notifications off.
I also hate our dependence on them. Honestly, I feel lost without my phone (which is so sad)! I think the biggest problem with smart phones (or the ugly side) is we (meaning me) get so wrapped up in our devices that we miss things! We have our noses stuck in a phone and miss opportunities of fellowship with friends or miss moments with our kids.

There is a great post circulated Facebook about Moms and Iphones. I think it is too perfect to not share. I tried to find where this originated, but I couldn’t. I take no credit for the following letter.

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Dear Mom On the iPhone (or any other Smartphone),

I see you over there on the bench, messing on your iPhone. It feels good to relax a little while your kids have fun in the sunshine, doesn’t it? You are doing a great job with your kids, you work hard, you teach them manners, have them do their chores.

But Momma, let me tell you what you don’t see right now…..

Your little girl is spinning round and round, making her dress twirl. She is such a little beauty queen already, the sun shining behind her long hair. She keeps glancing your way to see if you are watching her.

You aren’t.

Your little boy keeps shouting, “Mom, MOM watch this!” I see you acknowledge him, barely glancing his way.

He sees that too. His shoulders slump, but only for a moment, as he finds the next cool thing to do.

Now you are pushing your baby in the swing. She loves it! Cooing and smiling with every push. You don’t see her though, do you? Your head is bent, your eyes on your phone as you absently push her swing.

Talk to her. Tell her about the clouds, Mommy. The Creator who made them. Tickle her tummy when she comes near you and enjoy that baby belly laugh that leaves far too quickly.

Put your eyes back on your prize…Your kids.

Show them that they are the priority. Wherever you are, be ALL there. I am not saying it’s not ok to check in on your phone, but it’s a time-sucker: User Beware!

Play time at the park will be over before you know it.

The childhood of your children will be gone before you know it.

They won’t always want to come to the park with you, Mommy. They won’t always spin and twirl to make their new dress swish, they won’t always call out, “WATCH ME!”

There will come a point when they stop trying, stop calling your name, stop bothering to interrupt your phone time.

Because they know…

You’ve shown them, all these moments, that the phone is more important than they are. They see you looking at it at while waiting to pick up brother from school, during playtime, at the dinner table, at bedtime…..

I know that’s not true, Mommy.

I know your heart says differently.

But your kids can’t hear your words, Mommy. Your actions are screaming way too loudly.

May our eyes rest upon those we love, first and foremost, and may everything else fall away in the wonderful, noisy, sticky-fingered glory of it all.

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Just something great to think about today! I know it has me thinking



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