Ever have one of those days when you feel like you’re the worst mother in the world?! I feel that way sometimes---as I listen to my kids argue with each other, the dishes are piled up in the sink, a layer of dust thickens on the end table, and the laundry piles up in the hamper. If any of you have known me for awhile, you know that I tend to be an over-achiever with everything I do. I wasn’t voted “Most Likely to Succeed” in my high school class for nothing! Ha! Some days, though, I feel like I’m doing everything just “okay” and nothing “great.” And with my over-achieving personality, I don’t like to do things half…well, half as good as they could be.
I’ve had many people say I must be “Super Mom” because I have twin 4-year-old boys, a 10-year-old, a 7- (almost 8) year-old, a part-time job, and I do some volunteering at school. Umm….have those people SEEN my dirty kitchen floor?! Ha ha! But the fact that I have 4 kids and I’m able to keep my head above water (most days) and my kids alive does NOT make me a “Super Mom.” So what does?
So, I thought to myself, what could I do to improve myself as a mother? What can I do better? To help me decide, I thought it would be fun to post the question on my Facebook page: “What quality do you admire MOST about your mother?” I expected to hear some people say, “My mom’s great cooking,” or “My mom’s great sense of humor,” etc. etc. Nope. There was not one comment about how clean their mother kept the house, or how skilled their mother was at sewing, or how talented she was at her job. Almost every comment centered around the fact that “my mother will love me no matter what.” It’s that unconditional love and SUPPORT from their mothers that people admire the most. It’s the feeling that they can go to their mother with any problem, concern, or joyful news and their mother will be there to listen. I asked one of my kids the same question: “What do you love most about Mommy?” And the response: “That you love us.”
So please, mothers, tell your kids you love them every day. Be there to listen to them, to offer support, and to provide a safe, happy home for them. In doing so, you will forever be a SUPER MOM in their eyes…and those are the only eyes that matter.