This article, entitled "How to Deal with Conflict at School," comes from Annie Payne, MomsEveryday blogger from Western Colorado.
Although the school year is just starting it doesn’t take long for conflicts to arise. Not every day is going to be your child’s best day ever. So here are a few tips to dealing with conflicts at school.
My first tip is not to be too hasty when it comes to solving your child’s problem, if it doesn’t have to do with their personal safety, sometimes it’s just best to give it a day or two and see if things just level out on their own. Kids sometimes have a tendency to be too dramatic, what may be a big deal one day, might be forgotten about the next.
Second, if it is a conflict with the teacher, go directly to the source. Our school district has a website that allows parents to e-mail teachers directly, which makes it easy to stay in constant contact. Set up a time to talk to them directly. Teachers appreciate parents who work together with them and communicate with them, instead of letting concerns fester.
Next, remember that you are your child’s advocate. Tell them you are happy they came to you with their problems. Try to listen more and talk less when they tell you what is bothering them. Show them you were listening by summarizing what they said and validate their feelings and frustrations by saying something like, “I can see how that would bother you” but don’t continue to stoke the fire of their frustration, by saying things like “That kid was totally wrong” or “I can’t believe your teacher did that.” Model good conflict resolution by waiting to hear both sides of the story.
It’s easy to let the Mama Bear syndrome take over when we feel like our kids have been slighted, but helping them deal with problems in the proper way will serve them better throughout their life than just getting angry and lashing out at others without thinking and talking it through.
Now, it’s your turn. How have you helped your child deal with conflicts at school? What have been your challenges and have you worked them out?
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